(From Emotional Mastery)
By Gedale Fenster
Every emotion that we experience is a call to action. Emotions can be our best friends, a guide to the areas that we need to improve or change. By controlling our emotions, we can prevent our thoughts from controlling us. Let’s explore the most common emotions that we may experience, what they are communication to us, and the strategies for overcoming them.
Fear: What is fear? Fear is believing that other people or circumstances have the ability to control or affect the outcome of a situation. Someone may experience this in the workplace; fearing their employer or a potential client. Misplaced fear can be diminished with the trust and understanding that no-one can take anything away from you or affect your life in any way unless it is decreed from above.
Hurt: A sense of loss when our expectations are not met. By adjusting the way that we communicate and addressing the issue immediately, we can prevent resentment from growing, and likely change the outcome of a conflict.
Anger: Angry outburst are directly correlated with one’s ego, and this emotion usually presents itself when we or someone else violates one of our important values. We can deal with anger by clarifying the cause of the emotion, practicing acceptance, and adjusting our approach for the future.
Frustration: Feelings of frustration signal to us that we are repeatedly doing the same thing over and expecting the results to be different. By altering our approach to the situation, and taking a chance on a new strategy, we will see improvement.
Disappointment: Feelings of disappointment can arise when experiencing a set-back. If someone closed ten sales, yet lost one customer, he may be inclined to focus on the loss of that customer. By turning expectation into appreciation and focusing on gratitude for the good that we already have, we will attract more blessing into our lives.
Guilt: This emotion generally presents itself when we’ve violated our own standards. It’s imperative to quickly move out of this state, so that it does not spiral into a vicious cycle of negative emotions. It’s important to evaluate whether these feelings are justified, make amends with those who were affected by our actions, and commit to living in alignment with our values.
Depression: Feeling the weight of the world and not knowing where to begin. When feeling depressed, it is natural to seek out comfort and validation from others who are in the same frame of mind; yet by creating movement, and choosing small goals to work on, we can steadily get out of this state.
The ball is in our court. If we can master our emotions and understand that the circumstances that we face will only improve when we improve ourselves, then we can each change our lives for the better.